Social media is taking over - especially in the dating scene. I tried fighting the new fad, but realized that this in fact was how guys would prefer to ask girls out these days.. I gave in. I'm learning a lot. I may have learned too much about the dating game. The do's and don't's. I've done a lot of the don't's, because I hate playing games. Dating is ALL about the games. So, to say the least. I wasn't very good at it.
What do I say? When do I say it? How do I say this? Is he full of it? ( which you find.. Most are - no joke) what does that really mean? Am I too old for this shit? It gets a little bit overwhelming.
It's all about confidence. Know what you want and get it. If you don't get it, move on. Move on quickly. Don't dwell, dwelling isn't worth it. It also makes you doubt your self worth, and never do that. You're worth flows abundantly. You're worth it, and you know it. Let it show. I have to remind myself that, pretty much every time I feel like giving into the 'I may be alone forever.' It doesn't sink in quite as fast as I like, but eventually it does, and you realize you hold the key. No wait, you are the key.
I've racked up some pretty funny stories, and dumb stories. All good life lessons that will benefit me as I go along this long and sometimes dreadful road called dating.
Here's a few things I have learned about the dating business.
If they don't respect your time, they're not worth your time.
A guy that doesn't know what he wants will ultimately not want you, and that's ok. Better figure that out quickly then much later. So when you hear a guy say "I don't know what I want." Or "I don't know what I'm looking for." That means don't even try. No joke.
Guys who don't consistently text and then randomly text you means one or two things. They're either bored. Or they're either bored. Consistency is a good trait to look for.
Excuses are just a another nice way of saying, "I found something better to do, but thanks." Once you figure that out. Move on, and move on fast, cause girl, that boy is not into you.
Guys will say anything to keep you. Get smart and pay attention to what they're saying, and why. I had to learn that, and it's still confusing on which ones are really genuine.
You get a late night text. They're either bored or horny. Or both. Don't respond unless you want to play along.
Guys are simple. Really, they are. They're either into it or not. The ones that are truly into you will actually treat you like they like you. The ones that are not ( but want to keep you as back up) will also treat you like they like you. The only diffrence is..... Their actions. If they don't have action to back up that talk you know you need to walk.
With all that said dating is fun, annoying, and kinda confusing all at the same time.
I haven't found what I'm looking for,
But I think I know the most important secret to the dating game. You have to go in with confidence and leave with confidence. Run, run as fast as you can. The one to catch you is your one true man. So, don't slow down, and don't speed up. Keep it steady. Keep it real. Don't forget to communicate, and communicate again.
Remember, dating is a freakin battle field. Wear your armor well.
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